Monday, December 24, 2007

On Relationships

It's Christmas Eve and I'm miserable. I'm home, which is good. It's nice to be back. But I what I expected never was. I thought I'd come home, have a happy reunion with Ashly, be happy-peachy keen, spend 4 weeks avoiding cold weather and in her company, all would be well. Instead, I'm single(of my own declaration), miserable, lonely, hating the fact that I'm alone again on Christmas and New Year's, upset because I don't know why she stopped talking with me, upset because I know cutting ties is the best thing for me, but still beating myself up over the decision because what if, suddenly, she came back?

Fucking misery. I'm torn over my fucking relationship, because I thought I loved her(of course I did, how could I not?), and now I'm still in love(maybe), but she's not in my life anymore(her own choices, I suppose... what happens when you don't hear from your girlfriend in two months?), and I have no idea how to deal with it. Yay, I can move on with my life! vs. Crap, I'm alone! Relationships and I are not friends... more like acquaintances. I know the basics of Relationship, but it's like testing deep water - I have no idea how far down it goes. Or how to avoid drowning.

I just wish it hadn;t ended the way it did. Or that at least she'd told me that it was over, if it even is. I haven't heard from her since mid-October, remember? So for all I know we could still be together, with her simply on hiatus, or in her own world, or whatever. Hell if I know. But I do know that all my efforts at reaching her went unanswered. And eventually even I learn that sending out messages in bottles over and over with no reply isn't going to have a different outcome the 301^nth time. Only solution would be to stop by where she works, and talk to her then - but that's probably the height of unprofessional, isn't it? So I don't really want to take that option. What happened? Why? When did we start failing? Did we ever start failing? Did she meet someone else? Isn't it the right thing to do to tell your boyfriend that you don't wish to be in a relationship anymore?

What does one do with all the pieces of that relationship, once it's over? All the pictures, the letters, the memories? Do you tuck them away, only to bring them out every now and then to re-open the wound? Or does the pain eventually stop? Why do I have trouble getting close to people? Every time I think I'm over this, I have a bad night and memories and thoughts come flooding up, and I go down into a misery.

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